My children's elementary school has an annual Father/Daughter dance around Valentine's Day. It looks like so much fun. The little girls get dressed up and the Daddies dress up and they decorate. But it is just for Father/Daughters. No Mother/Sons allowed. No Mothers/Daughters allowed either I think. You can do an Uncle or Grandpa and your daughter if there is no Father.
But why can't I go with my sons as a date? My sons love to dance with me. DH takes DD but we have to stay at home and miss out on all the fun. I know I am not the only mom that is bummed with this. Is there something wrong with Mother/Sons going to a dance together?
I agree with Winds. I think that a lot of girls would enjoy a "father/daughter" dance but not many boys would enjoy a "mother/son" dance.
That being said, if it's something you're really interested in, perhaps you can contact the school and offer to plan it? Maybe there's more interest than they think.
I am talking with another mom right now and we are thinking about talking to the school about it. Apparently this dance is set up as a fundraiser for the technology dept and raises money for that dept. So I would think opening it up to mother/sons would just help them raise more money so don't see the downside. Heck even if only 10 Mother/sons come that is more money and every little bit helps.
Do you think they are concerned about the girls and parents not wanting boys there for some reason? Like it would take attention away from the Dads if the girls are trying to talk and dance with boys. Or embarrass the girls. I am just trying to wrap my head around why they don't allow mother/sons to come.
One friend of mine suggested a mother/son St Patricks dance and that sounds like an awesome idea. So I am going to go talk to them about it this afternoon and just see what I can find out. One mother said they did a mother/son dance one year and it had a good turn out. Her son is in middle school now so it was probably a couple years ago.
"Do you think they are concerned about the girls and parents not wanting boys there for some reason? Like it would take attention away from the Dads if the girls are trying to talk and dance with boys. Or embarrass the girls. I am just trying to wrap my head around why they don't allow mother/sons to come. "
(Advanced editor isn't working for me.)
That could be the case. IMO, a Father/daughter dance is going to have a different vibe than a parent/child dance.
And I'll be honest - I think there's a level of mockery that's going to take place if a boy dances with his mom that's not present when a girl dances with her dad. I'm not sure of your son's age, but that's something to consider.
I wouldn't push for it to be held the same night, that seems to defeat the purpose of it being a special dance and turns it into 'everyone is here' type thing. Instead I'd see if there were a way to incorporate a second event for mothers and sons.
