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dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Happily?

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

My response would always be the truth (whatever that may be). But irregardless of the answer, I would follow it up with "but that's irrelevant, because my vows are important to me", or some other phrase that indicates that there's no chance.

winds55 · Guru

"Go away."

kapper · I am always right, unless I am wrong.

Yes! Very much so.

EmmDee · Guru

I think if I were in that situation, I would be speechless

huckleberry · Senior Member

That's the kind of question that is asked if the person is still interested even if you're married, though it may not be intended that way. So depending ont hee tone of the conversation the answer would be "none of your business" expressed more or less politely

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

EmmDee wrote:
I think if I were in that situation, I would be speechless

I know right? What kind of success rate could that possibly yeild that a person would be THAT rude?

I bored him with the long list of my children, my current and previous pets, where we've lived and some of our more memorable vacations. Every time he tried to leave I thought of some more interesting *not* facts about my life since he was so interested.

I was as obnoxiously polite as I could be. But I was thoroughly insulted. It's not the first time someone has asked me that but it is the first time someone has asked me when the answer isn't 'yes'

The answer is closer to 'I guess so' or 'I don't want to think about it right now' like I'm going to say that to someone I don't know.

I wish I could say 'Even if I wasn't I wouldn't get with someone as crass as you.' He'd probably take my being insulted as proof of problems in my marriage and be amused. As long as I'm fantasizing -maybe I should have kicked him and pretended it was an accident hehehehe. No one would believe that I did it on purpose. I have no history of violence. I'm looking forward to getting a history of violence. I need one.

FRAED · Guru

I was making myself a cup of coffee in a convenient store awhile back and looked up as two guys walked by. I noticed one of them was looking at me, but I just put my head back down & went about mixing up my coffee. He says "why are all the married women so miserable".
Um, what? Really? Because I wasn't standing there with a fake smile plastered on my face I'm a miserable married woman? It was 8 a.m., I was on my way to work and I was putting creamer in coffee, how was I supposed to look?

But back to the orginal OP question - if someone asked if I was happily married I'd say "yes" no matter how happy I was at that time because I wouldn't want them to try to pursue something I wasn't interested in.

EmmDee · Guru

dqm, sometimes I think a history of violence could do some good.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

I wonder if it's *ahem cyclical but it seems like I've been entertaining violent tendencies on a somewhat regular basis lately.

Grandmas are supposed to be nice old ladies. I might need to grow into my grandma role.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

You still have one free one dqm! Use it wisely.

I saw this shortly after you posted it but still haven't figured out what I would do in this situation. I think I would be shocked and probably blurt out the first thing that entered my head. Like "get lost scumbag" or "even if I wasn't, you're not my type", maybe just say "very" and leave it at that. I can't imagine saying something like that to someone. What a loser.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Can't say as I have seen that video... now I have to go looking for it. (it's the whole "curiosity" thing...)

ETA: watched it. Don't have a problem with what happened. I would NEVER advocate hitting a woman FIRST, but once she hits (or attempts to), she's chosen, of her own free will, to take herself out of that protected class. In the case of the bus driver... she hit (or attempted to hit, can't tell in the video) him first.

-- Edited by RichardInTN on Saturday 20th of October 2012 09:31:07 PM

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Have you guys seen the video of that bus driver in Cleveland who uppercutted a female passenger?
I'm not going to post it because it's sickening but I'm a firm believer in
If you hit someone you better be prepared to get hit back.

I will be holding on to my free bitch slap. It might not be 'free'

That woman was so unsympathetic! That was some terrible violence against her but I don't pity her in the least. I don't condone what he did but at the end when the bus driver says 'she was acting like a man so she got treated like a man' I was just -silent-

Violence against a woman = bad
Woman behaving like a hood rat = violence against her = bad bad bad

That man is lucky he didn't break her head off her neck as hard as he hit her. He'd be in prison over the likes of her dumb@$$. She wasn't worth risking prison and she wasn't worth losing his job over. She wasn't worth much of anything.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Richard, she spit in his face bleh

Which in my mind takes her well out of the 'lady' or 'woman' category and puts her squarly in the 'hood rat' category.

Is it ok to punch a hoodrat like that?????? I don't know but I think I do know one thing? She's never going to do that again.

I don't condone what he did but what the hell did she expect was going to happen? And I'm not sure what angle you saw it from because there were multiple people vid'ing it but from one angle you can see him upper cut her and then snatch her up off the ground like a rag doll and bodily throw her off the bus. Then he picks up her stuff and throws it off after her.

It was all very -wow-

Oh and I'm adding Cleveland to my list of places that I do not care to visit.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

"spat in his face" is equivalent (if not worse) in my book (something that was not him made unwanted, non-accidental, physical contact with him, solely through her actions)... so I'm good with his response.

Don't want to get hit... don't hit (in any way, shape, or form) first.

And I saw his punch of her and the tossing from the bus and the tossing of her stuff. He had the right to remover her and her stuff from the bus.

Evil Stepmother · Guru

Yes he had the right to remover her from the bus, but not to punch her. Maybe he'll get some sympathetic company to hire him, though. Surely he got fired over this. No matter how justified it might be, a company cannot keep an employee that punched a customer.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

As an employee, I agree the punch was beyond his employee discretion.

There is a difference between what people can do as individuals and what they can do as employees/representatives of a company.

FRAED · Guru

My husband is a bus driver.
He watched that video - I'm sure pretty much every bus driver in the country has watched that by now.

His opinion is that the driver shouldn't have hit her (not because it was a woman, it's not worth losing your job over a scumbag like that, no matter man or woman) - yes she DESERVED to be hit, but DH said if that were him - he would have pulled over (if the bus was moving) and thrown her off and if she didn't go quietly, he would have called the cops.

What she was doing is illegal - she was interfering with the safe operation of a mass transit vehicle. She was putting every passenger in danger by distracting the driver like that.

You would not believe how drivers are treated. A lot of people think a bus driver works for THEM. Well, they don't. They have rules they have to follow.

DH also said that women are a thousand times worse in the way they treat the drivers - and other passengers - than men are.