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dqm either · Don't Quote Me

So what do you want for X-mas?

Forty-two · Guru

living revived wrote:
I want a nap and a day away all to myself.

Also in dreamland, a new professional grade camera would be nice.

But I'm sure I'll be happy with whatever DH got me! :P

Seriously, I had to come up with a wish list for the extended family, and I couldn't think of a darn thing. I would like some boots, but that's the kind of thing I need to pick out and try on, not something that someone could give me. But that's about it.

LR I can TOTALLY relate. But I could not say A day would do it for me. Ideally I would want a week away with DH without the kids but the next best thing is two weeks away in the area of the world I love the most, not cooking and not with a precocious five year old. When my older kids were young I traveled for work all of the time. I would often travel for two week stretches so dealing with the challenges of motherhood was so much easier. Now for work I don't travel as much and I HATE it (I am looking for a new job). So I won't be home for X-mas I will be away in Spain and Italy for two weeks. I am beside myself with excitement, no cooking, no housework no little kids for two weeks with good wine and fantastic food. I have been going insane with wanting to get away.

-- Edited by Forty-two on Thursday 13th of December 2012 08:01:49 AM

Forty-two · Guru

We talked about what we were giving out beloveds but what do you want? I want sweat pants high quality Champion sweat pants because my damn kids have taken mine! I want a big wad of cash for my X-mas vacay. I am hopeing DH comes through on the latter.

So what do you guys want?

alice underground · Guru

An electric tea kettle.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

I'd like something that says my wife thought about me as something other than an ATM all year.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

dqm either wrote:
Like what Richard?

I haven't had an outside job since May and even though I handle all the finances (or maybe especially because I do) I want to pick another gift more thoughtful than the water pick which I'm getting for no other reason than we don't already have one.

Physical affection (maybe even including sex) would be nice.

Telling me that she'll occasionally make me something I like for dinner "just because" would be nice too (and then following through with that).

Agreeing that her grown up, adult kids need to start fending for themselves... and then following up with actually making that happen would also be acceptable.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

I was thinking more like a gift. I don't really consider dinner or sex to be a gift.

Is there anything she could buy you that would say ' I appreciate you.'?

I'm not sure if you've ever mentioned this before but is there something 'wrong' with your wife?

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

RTL, I can understand not wanting to exchange gifts but I don't understand why you want to give them but not recieve?
Does that make the recipients feel bad?

living revived · Senior Member

I want a nap and a day away all to myself.

Also in dreamland, a new professional grade camera would be nice.

But I'm sure I'll be happy with whatever DH got me! :P

Seriously, I had to come up with a wish list for the extended family, and I couldn't think of a darn thing. I would like some boots, but that's the kind of thing I need to pick out and try on, not something that someone could give me. But that's about it.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Spoiler

I was talking to my girlfriend about not knowing what to buy and she sent me this picture.

I asked her since it was a buy 1 get 1 free if we could split the cost and each of our husbands could get one.

Forty-two · Guru

Is that some sort of typo? I cannot even think of what they were really advertising.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

You're not familiar with Ass fragrances? Really? The don't sell that at your CVS?

No just kidding. It's a very unfortunate way of advertising their assorted fragrances gift sets.

LoL

Evil Stepmother · Guru

I'd like this chandelier. DH's comment, "It's $2000. And it's ugly."

Forty-two · Guru

ES that chandelier is quite interesting, it's challenge is that it does not go with everything.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

dqm either wrote:
I was thinking more like a gift. I don't really consider dinner or sex to be a gift. (1)

Is there anything she could buy you that would say ' I appreciate you.'? (2)

I'm not sure if you've ever mentioned this before but is there something 'wrong' with your wife? (3)

(1 & 2) Her income is pretty well spoken for, so I don't really expect gifts that can be bought from her (and I'm fine with that).

(3) Other than her aversion to sex? She has a heart condition that makes her unable to work for various reasons (I'd rather not go into much more detail than that... but it's been Doctor confirmed, in my presence, that the condition would NOT eliminate a sex life... though it could make it necessary to not have any for a few days... every now and then)

Evil Stepmother · Guru

Forty-Two, that is quite diplomatic of you! I really want a light fixture with flowers on it over the table in the kitchen of the house I'm going to build. The color of the walls and the cabinets would have to be chosen to go with it.

Richard, that is so sad. Even if your wife has no interest, she should do it occassionally because you want to.

tigerlily · Guru

I like the chandelier ES. I would have no idea how to pick things that went with it, but I like it

Forty-two · Guru

I think ES's chandelier would be great in the right house (she said kitchen) if it was a teeny kitchen it would be a bit much but a big kitchen with a high ceiling it could be fantastic....as long as she did not have a wall to match each color in the fixture. biggrin

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

I want Family Feud for the Wii, jeans, White Christmas, and a gift certificate to Half-Price Books.

tigerlily · Guru

Aardvark wrote:
I want Family Feud for the Wii, jeans, White Christmas, and a gift certificate to Half-Price Books.

They have family fued for the wii???! *off to amazon*

I don't really know what I want other than stuff that is not practical or is too expensive. Oh! The Brave and Tinkerbell movies.

huckleberry · Senior Member

All my kids at home--and I will have my wish Sunday night, when my college kids will be flying in for a long break with us. So I am guaranteed to get what I want for Christmas.

Well, a few days off would be good, too, but I guess we can't have everything.

I hope Santa brings everyone just what they want, as you have all been so good.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

I want what 42 is getting! Really I would just like some time off. Funny I know because I don't work LOL! I could use some alone time. A date with DH, nice dinner out, maybe a movie. I'd love to be able to sleep in and relax.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Evil Stepmother wrote:
Forty-Two, that is quite diplomatic of you! I really want a light fixture with flowers on it over the table in the kitchen of the house I'm going to build. The color of the walls and the cabinets would have to be chosen to go with it.

Richard, that is so sad. Even if your wife has no interest, she should do it occassionally because you want to.

One would think so... wouldn't one. The whole "I'm not interested, but I know my spouse likes it, and I want to make my spouse happy" thing.

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

tigerlily wrote:
Aardvark wrote:
I want Family Feud for the Wii, jeans, White Christmas, and a gift certificate to Half-Price Books.
They have family fued for the wii???! *off to amazon*
I don't really know what I want other than stuff that is not practical or is too expensive. Oh! The Brave and Tinkerbell movies.

Yep! DH saw it and mentioned it to me, as he knows my love of game shows.

Forty-two · Guru

Mom of half a dozen wrote:
I want what 42 is getting! Really I would just like some time off. Funny I know because I don't work LOL! I could use some alone time. A date with DH, nice dinner out, maybe a movie. I'd love to be able to sleep in and relax.

If I was home with six kids I damned sure would need time off more than if worked...Hell I would just run away or off myself!

NANN2 · Leader of the Woof Pack

Aardvark wrote:
tigerlily wrote:
Aardvark wrote:
I want Family Feud for the Wii, jeans, White Christmas, and a gift certificate to Half-Price Books.
They have family fued for the wii???! *off to amazon*
I don't really know what I want other than stuff that is not practical or is too expensive. Oh! The Brave and Tinkerbell movies.
Yep! DH saw it and mentioned it to me, as he knows my love of game shows.

We got it a couple of years ago and LOVE it!

NANN2 · Leader of the Woof Pack

RichardInTN wrote:
I'd like something that says my wife thought about me as something other than an ATM all year.

:( I'm sorry Richard.

NANN2 · Leader of the Woof Pack

I wouldn't mind a new pair of hiking boots, but this year I'll gladly settle for a working oven so I can cook real meals!

FRAED · Guru

I need a new jewelry box. Pretty sure I got one.

What I really want is gift cards for the mall - not cash. If I'm given cash I will spend it on everything/one but me. But with a gift card I will be forced to go to the mall and once I'm there I will be all about shopping for me.
The reason I want the gift card is because I've lost 35 pounds and desperately need clothes (pants mostly) and I'm one of those people who never shops for herself so this will force me to do it.

Other than those two things, I really don't want anything. I'm happy with whatever I get.

I did just get my first gift on Wednesday - from one of my co-workers/friends - she gave me a Pandora bracelet and the first charm.

Forty-two · Guru

Congrats on the weight loss!

FRAED · Guru

Forty-two wrote:
Congrats on the weight loss!

Thanks! I'm quite proud of myself. biggrin

alice underground · Guru

FRAED wrote:
Forty-two wrote:
Congrats on the weight loss!
Thanks! I'm quite proud of myself.

As well you should be. Congratulations!!

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

alice underground wrote:
FRAED wrote:

Forty-two wrote:
Congrats on the weight loss!
Thanks! I'm quite proud of myself.

As well you should be. Congratulations!!

I agree. Great job Fraed!

FRAED · Guru

Mom of half a dozen wrote:
alice underground wrote:
FRAED wrote:

Forty-two wrote:
Congrats on the weight loss!
Thanks! I'm quite proud of myself.

As well you should be. Congratulations!!
I agree. Great job Fraed!

Thanks!!!

My pants are looking quite funny now. I wear dress pants to work most days and one pair doesn't have belt hoops so I pin them. The rest have belt hoops but the only belt I have is a thin one that I don't even know where it came from - I know I didn't buy it - and it doesn't really work that well.

I don't have to unbutton/zip my pants anymore - I just pull them down/up. They are super baggy - so I guess it's time to get my arse to the store for pants that fit.

Forty-two · Guru

Fraed it is a problem I really wish I had for my tops

FRAED · Guru

Forty-two wrote:
Fraed it is a problem I really wish I had for my tops

I can't empathize with you on that one - I've never filled out shirts.

huckleberry · Senior Member

Fraed, that's awesome, congratulations!

If you'd rather save the gift cards for soemthing else and/or your dress pants are of good quality, you might think about having them taken in. Tailors can do this pretty easily, or if they are very simply cut a dressmaker friend could do it.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

NANN2 wrote:
RichardInTN wrote:
I'd like something that says my wife thought about me as something other than an ATM all year.
:( I'm sorry Richard.

No need for you to apologize (unless it's a "my gender can be so evil sometimes... so... I'm sorry on behalf of the rest of 'em" kind of apology. wink ).

But, thank you.

FRAED · Guru

huckleberry wrote:
Fraed, that's awesome, congratulations!

If you'd rather save the gift cards for soemthing else and/or your dress pants are of good quality, you might think about having them taken in. Tailors can do this pretty easily, or if they are very simply cut a dressmaker friend could do it.

I did think about that but decided to buy new pants. The ones I'm wearing are a few years old and, well, it's just time to spend on me. biggrin LOL!

I'm really bad at that.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

This is what I want for Christmas

Spoiler

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Mom of half a dozen · Guru

She is such a doll dqm!

Mary Zombie · Your brains...they're delicious.

Right Now I just want Mama's hip to heal. She had a tumble at the ALF and had surgery and is going to rehab today. My present would be her getting better and not being in too much pain for Christmas!

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Best of wishes to your Mom Mary for a complete recovery.

Mary Zombie · Your brains...they're delicious.

Thank You so much dqm!

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

So I know I've been bitching about how Mr. Dq and I haven't been getting along and I didn't make it any better by my non enthusiastic response to him telling me what my present was going to be.

I do feel bad about that. I should have been more gracious even though it wasn't anything that I wanted.

Well imagine my chagrin when it wasn't under the tree Christmas morning. hmm

I wasn't upset upset. It could have been him trying to teach me a lesson or it could be that part of the gift was him wanting to make all the arrangements. I didn't say anything but I have hinted a little. Then hinted a little bit more. And a little bit more.

Ok three hints is my limit. The trip was supposed to be this weekend and ~hello~ it's Friday. The weekend is upon us. If we're going I need to know. Is it just us for romance and I need to arrange someone to check on the kids? Is it all of us and I need to get them packed and call someone to care for the animals? How long are we going to be gone? Do I need to reschedule any appointments? GAAAH! This is why I'm the event planner around here.

Afraid to spoil any elaborate plans he's made or nice surpise but really needing to know I finally had to just ask. We're not going. He's having his jeep modified and it's been in the shop over the holidays and the certificate is in the jeep. Not that his car is in 'jail' with no visitation rights. We could have gotten it before Christmas and planned everything but whatever.

He got me a new pot. I was sufficiently grateful. I think I've even boiled some water in it.

tigerlily · Guru

I'm sorry dqm. Even if your response was non-enthusiastic, it seems like it would have been best to let you know sooner if he was planning to cancel the trip.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

I'm not making any excuses about my response to his gift. I 100% agree that I could have received the news more graciously. It's just that

1. He knows that I don't care for Reno. Yes I have a good time everywhere I go because that's my personality but if I have a choice he knows I don't prefer that town. I'd rather spend my time in Clear Lake or someplace PRETTY. Reno is so ugh..

2. Giving me a trip as a gift would be the equivalent of me saying his gift is that he can work overtime. Yes there's the extra money at the end but you still had to work for it. To me it's the same thing. Yes there's a trip but if I have to do everything how is that really a gift?

Oh well, I'm going down to visit the baby on Sunday so I'm still going to have fun. I'll stop by his friend's shop and get the certificate tomorrow. This is me doing the trip planning. LOL! It's just usually if it's a gift for me I pick where ~I~ want to go.

I think I'm going to regift and give it to my 2nd daughter for her 21st birthday. We took the first one to Reno for her 21st. For some reason the 2nd one is expecting a much more lavish party. I'm simply not inclined. She can go to Reno. It's hot there too but it's less work and already paid for.

Now I feel like I'm guilty of the same thing my husband did LOL

There is a difference though. When I offer the gift I'm going to do all the planning and it truly will be a gift.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

So I finally ended up with my present. I'm going to be in Reno in April or May if anyone would like to hang out. I'm thinking perhaps Mother's Day Weekend only it would probably be Sunday-Tuesday for me rather than Fri-Sun.