I know this has been discussed before but at what time do you feel it would be appropriate to make it widely known? One of DH's friends just made the announcement on facebook at 1.5 months. That just seems so early to me. I know they had problems conceiving in the past so I wish them nothing but the best. At what point have you or would you announce to close friends and family and then general public, what about your employer?
We shared with the family after we saw a hearth beat on the US, so that was about 8 or 9 weeks.
At work I let HR and my boss know right away, just to be covered for doctor appointments and the such.
Coworkers and other friends I told them at about 12 weeks
I let my boss know at eleven weeks because he was going on vacation for a month, and we have planned to tell people at twelve weeks. I made the mistake on not asking him to keep it quiet and he let a ton of people know. It was around my department two days later (I told him Friday and his boss asked me about it at a event on Sunday).
I always thought the 3 months, end of first trimester was the standard for the general announcement. I wonder if this is part of the facebook era. We can share things so easily that it is hard to hold back anything. This woman is a typical overshare type. She posts on average 3-6 times a day.
With mine, I started to share the news right away. But this is way before facebook and the internet and news did not spread like an out of control fire. The 'waiting until after the first trimester' thing is a rather new social norm.
As far as I'm concerned, the right time is when the happy couple want to tell.
I thought that the waiting until the end of the first trimester had to do with making sure the pregnancy was viable, the risk of miscarriage is less after the first trimester, so in case the unthinkable happened there wouldn't be a bunch of people asking questions.
That's what I gathered from the time I spent at the Baby Center.
Maybe that is the difference though kina. With just a few keystrokes and a click of a mouse, hundreds and hundreds of people know. That just seems like a HUGE announcement to me. Of course, take this with a grain of salt from the person who merely changed relationship status with engagement and marriage and made no other mention on facebook.
Maybe that is the difference though kina. With just a few keystrokes and a click of a mouse, hundreds and hundreds of people know. That just seems like a HUGE announcement to me. Of course, take this with a grain of salt from the person who merely changed relationship status with engagement and marriage and made no other mention on facebook.
Yes I agree. And it IS a huge announcement. But, back then it was to family and a small group of friends. Not to everyone I ever went to school with and babysat! I know, I sound like the old fart I am!
Des, I agree that is the reasoning behind the first trimester wait, but I think it should be a personal choice, not a social norm. (I have seen discussion of this subject in other places).
I am not saying she is wrong for doing so, just seems like a big step that I would probably ease into more. DH knew it was possible last week already, their first doctor appointment was today with an US, hence a photo and announcement. Less than 6 hours have passed and 150+ have already liked and/or commented on the post. I guess I am a more private person and would want to have greater control over the release of information.
Although it may seem like I'm arguing with you, I'm not. I am also a private person. If I was your age now, I would probably do things way differently.
Oh, I don't think you are arguing. I think things are different now for sure. If this was say 20 years ago and she told every one of her friends, family and acquaintances that she came into contact with, it would still take a long time to rack up 150+ people. It would have been the equivalent of take out a small town newspaper ad for an announcement
We originally planned to share at 12 weeks, but after a scare, we told our parents and siblings because we needed the emotional support. We told the world at large at 15 weeks.
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I feel like you should tell closest family and friends right away. Then tell less close friends and family at 3 months. Then you can probably tell work about that time too and everyone else. Just my personal opinion. That way if you lose the baby your closest people will be there to support you (hopefully, I know this is not always the case unfortunately) but you don't have to go back and tell people you are not close to you lost the baby which is really hard to do.
