So apparently Dad started grilling Mom about why Cousin was moving out. He's been mad that Sister won't let her son around CS, and making snotty remarks about how she's supposedly such a good Christian, etc, and she's being so mean to Cousin. Dad is an atheist, and Sister recently became very involved in her church. While I am not in general a huge fan of organized religion, I think it's been great for Sister since it gives her more support through this PITA divorce.
Mom had lunch with dad's sister yesterday. This is the Aunt who always hosts Tgiving. The same Tgiving Cousin has been attending for YEARS - even though according to her she's a "Thanksgiving orphan." At some point, Cousin posted on her Facebook that she was sick, and Aunt responded with something like, "Hope you feel better soon!" Cousin responded with, "That message was intended for my friends." So that, among other things, finally showed dad that CS's behavior towards Nephew is just a small part of the overall problem.
OMG that answer is so wrong!!!
I understand if not everyone in you FB is your BFF but she was really rude, I would have deleted her from my friend list right there and I would never have her at TGiving ever!
Yeah, I do wish Aunt had unfriended her. And if Aunt chose to not invite her to Tgiving, that would be fine with me to. Sadly, Aunt is probably not willing to explicitly say, "I don't want you in my home for Tgiving," and her Tgiving is kind of an open house. I certainly won't be mentioning it to Cousin or riding with Cousin. I may mention something like, "You know, last year you said you were a Thanksgiving orphan. So maybe you ought to make other plans. With your friends."
How did someone that self-absorbed and clearing socially backward ever get into Medical School? Don't they have some kind of psycholigical screening process? I wouldn't want her anywhere near my child, I don't care how skillful a practitioner she is.
I really don't get it. She's smart and nice and polite. She's well organized and tidy and competent. I just don't get it.
She had a bad homelife. Her parents were divorced when she was very young, and her brother was the CLEAR favorite of both. If he finished his food and wanted more, her mother would take her food and give it to her brother. When she was a teenager, she was in a car accident (not her fault) and her mom took the insurance money (Cousin had paid for the car and the insurance, but it was in her mom's name b/c of her age) and bought brother a car. In spite of having no support or encouragement from either of her parents, she maintained a 4.0 in school and got accepted into an Ivy League school. She paid her way through school with scholarships, some money our grandfather left her, and a paper route. She's incredibly driven and self-reliant. IMO, she had to be SO self-contained and self-reliant that she's not able to expand her circle of survival very well. Her son's in it, but she's only periphereially (sp?) aware of other people? She can deal well with people in a professional setting or in friendship setting, generally.
Honestly, if you ever met her, you would like her and you would be SHOCKED that she does this stuff.