For the last ten years my kids have spent one week with me and one week with their dad, my DXH. Still after all of this time they will ask me to do **** when they are at their dad's house. Kids this was the whole purpose of one week with him and one week with me so I don't have to be a full time mom. I don't want to if you have perfectly fantastic father. It is almost like innate sexism at work. As an example my daughter wants me to pick her up from an even tomorrow at 7:00pm. I told her to ask her freakin dad I am going out to dinner!
ooh ooh! i have a question! pick me! pick me! *jha frantically waves her hand in the air for recognition*
when the girls are with their dad, does the au pair split driving duties between both households, or does she just drive your son? i TOLD you i knew nothing about having an au pair!
as to your question, i'd think by now your daughters would be with the program that when they are with you, you handle such things. when they are with their dad, it's on him.
and can i say, forty-two, how impressed i am that you have such a good relationship with their father that you refer to him as DXH? i don't know very many women who would refer to their ex's as dear. it really speaks well of all of you, how you all work together for the good of the girls.
So the AP will drive the girls to my house on his weeks and DXH will pick them up from my house. So as an example DD2 has lacrosse and AP will pick her up at 6:45 and DXH will come and get DD2 and DD1 from my house since DD1 would have come to my house after school. They go to school in my school district not his.
I probably would have started answering requests for this such a thing with "omg, did something happen to your father, is he ok?!?" because clearly there must have been an emergency if they are making requests of you while it is his week.
My kids did the 'ask mom not dad' crap all the time. Need money for school? Ask mom after spending the whole weekend with dad. Go to the mall? Don't ask dad - wait until it's mom's weekend. And their dad was the laid-back one.
I probably would have started answering requests for this such a thing with "omg, did something happen to your father, is he ok?!?" because clearly there must have been an emergency if they are making requests of you while it is his week.
Ha! I like this one. And yes, barring an emergency I would tell the kids their father needs to handle it.
My youngest nephew who chose to live with his father called his mom to help him with his homework. His father is a teacher and his wife is a teacher's aide. Why can't they help him?
I am wondering if maybe she feels like she needs her mom, so she invents a reason to call? Maybe, "It's your dad's job to handle things like that on your weeks with him. Is there something you want to talk about?"
I am guessing you or OD don't have teens. I would bet for every 200 texts, tweets, instagrams and vines they send out they may make one two minute phone call. Calling and speaking to someone versus a text is what a teen in the 90s may have done but most don't nowadays in my world
Oh you meant the talking on the phone part, I see.
Yeah I know people text a lot now instead of calling - I much prefer texting myself as I don't really like talking on the phone.
But, there are still people, including teenagers I think, who like to have actual verbal conversations.
It sounds like your family is not the touchy-feely sort, but kids do sometimes talk to parents about their problems, for advice, for emotional support etc. Or just for companionship / friendship.
For the last ten years my kids have spent one week with me and one week with their dad, my DXH. Still after all of this time they will ask me to do **** when they are at their dad's house. Kids this was the whole purpose of one week with him and one week with me so I don't have to be a full time mom. I don't want to if you have perfectly fantastic father. It is almost like innate sexism at work. As an example my daughter wants me to pick her up from an even tomorrow at 7:00pm. I told her to ask her freakin dad I am going out to dinner!
So, did she want you to pick her up and then take her back to her dad's house since that is where she is staying? That would be an odd request, unless their dad drives like my dad did.
If I am just checking in or need to tell someone something quick, I can do it over texting, emailing, facebook. If I want to have a real conversation though and if I am having a problem and need emotional support, I prefer it be over the phone or in person. So maybe it was something like that where she just needed to talk to you.
But the easy way to figure that out is say "Is something going on? Do you need to talk to me about something bothering you?" Then if not, tell her to deal with her Dad about it then.
My mom loved to use car rides to talk about birth control. And she'd trick you.
Her: "Hey, I feel like Chinese food. Want to get dinner?"
Me: "Sure!"
*door locks click"
Her: "I think we need to talk about sex and birth control some more."
Well, you didn't drop everything and drive your DD when and where she wanted 42! That shows how little you want to spend time with them!
My kids recently went to the DR without me should I have kept them home rather than give them the experience since it was over spring break? That does not make a damn bit of sense if you want to raise decent adults?
-- Edited by Forty-two on Thursday 22nd of May 2014 06:19:37 AM
Well, you didn't drop everything and drive your DD when and where she wanted 42! That shows how little you want to spend time with them!
My kids recently went to the DR without me should I have kept them home rather than give them the experience since it was over spring break? That does not make a damn bit of sense if you want to raise indecent adults?
I thought I knew what the DR is, but now I'm not so sure. :)
