Q. Road Trips: I love to travel, and really enjoy getting away for the weekend whenever possible. However, my boyfriend of four years has put a real damper on this for me. He seems obsessed with the idea of my flashing truckers when we are on the road. He will pull up beside an 18-wheeler and slow down, expecting me to show off the goods. This makes me very uncomfortable. When I refuse, it turns into a huge fight and he ends up not speaking to me for days. He claims that he does so much for me every day and he can’t understand why I can’t do this thing for him. It has caused a lot of ridiculous fights between us. What can I do?
A: I like Dan Savage’s formulation that people in sexual relationships should be GGG—Good, Giving, and Game. That is, good in bed, generous sexually, and open to exploring the corners of their beloved’s erotic life. However, if being GGG on a road trip means you end up as road kill, then it’s time to bow out of engaging in your boyfriend’s fantasies. It doesn’t matter if on a daily basis your boyfriend cooks you Michelin-worthy meals and then massages your feet. He gets turned on by your exposing yourself to strangers driving a rig who if they get distracted could squash you like a bug. The answer to your boyfriend’s request is very firm, “No.” If that causes him to stop speaking to you, then you need to extend to silence to forever because he’s simply a creep.
Prudence's advice is... good. Up until she starts the third sentence.
The likelihood of ending up as "road kill" is no greater if she flashes or not. Truckers have been getting flashed since cars and trucks were invented... not once has "flashing" been even remotely part of any cause in any big-rig accident.
The advice after the second sentence should have been "Tell him 'no', if you don't want to do it though. If he can't accept that, then maybe he's not the right boyfriend for you"
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"Yabba Dabba Doo" - Frederick J. Flintstone... So what?
(Judd Nelson as Atty. Robin 'Stormy' Weathers in "From the Hip")
I wonder how old they are? One of those things that might be fun once or twice if you are young? If you are not an exhibitionist just say no. Maybe that's not the guy for you...