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Evil Stepmother · Guru

Children left in cars - How stupid can these parents be?

Lady Marsali · Senior Member

A few years ago, I would have said 'Oh how horrible!' and assumed it was a tragic accident. But they make warning after warning after warning and people still leave children in cars on hot days.

Cynical Terelyn thinks this douche (these douches!) have decided that their lives would be easier if they didn't have to deal with the toddler or with paying child support and because of the previous years when the 'parent' got a slap on the wrist because they'd 'been punished enough' by the loss of their child, this seems to be an easy out. "Oooops, I forgot that she was in the car!"

I hope they both get the maximum and serve every day of it. Or, they could be given the option of being strapped into a car on a 104 degree day. Let them experience what those poor kids did.

Evil Stepmother · Guru

Yes, every year there are PSAs about the heat, warnings about how hot the interior of a car gets and stories of people dying in their homes from the heat and every year another report in the news about a child dying in an overheated automobile.

You may be right about that young man. He doesn't look all that bright. At 18, maybe that was the best plan he could think of to get rid of a baby he didn't want.

Farmer Guy · Me and the sheep are tight.

God dam, there's some sickos out there, though I don't reckon this was done on perpess.

Evil Stepmother · Guru

I read a story a year or two ago about a father that left his children in the car while he went into a strip club (I think it was a strip club) Nothing bad happened to the children, but he was arrested for leaving them unattended in the parking lot. His lack of judgment was probably fueled by alcohol.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Some people are too stupid to be allowed to breed.

It's times like this when I wish there was some sort of test before people could start having children.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Lady Marsali wrote:
A few years ago, I would have said 'Oh how horrible!' and assumed it was a tragic accident. But they make warning after warning after warning and people still leave children in cars on hot days.

Cynical Terelyn thinks this douche (these douches!) have decided that their lives would be easier if they didn't have to deal with the toddler or with paying child support and because of the previous years when the 'parent' got a slap on the wrist because they'd 'been punished enough' by the loss of their child, this seems to be an easy out. "Oooops, I forgot that she was in the car!"

I hope they both get the maximum and serve every day of it. Or, they could be given the option of being strapped into a car on a 104 degree day. Let them experience what those poor kids did.

I'm o.k. with that punishment... as long as they stay locked up in the car long enough to get the same effects the children got.

Lady Marsali · Senior Member

A few years ago, there was a case here -- large family, mother had a doctor's appointment, father had to collect the kids to bring them home and apparently was quite irritated about it. It was his wife's duty to deal with the kids. Hot day. He went into the house and left the toddler strapped into her seat in the back of the family van. It was 2-3 hours later before the mother got home and asked where the toddler was.

Dead, still strapped into the seat in the van.

First, the father (for lack of a better word) tried to blame the older kids for not bringing her in. He was charged with negligent homicide and various child neglect/abuse.

He was actually found guilty, but at his sentencing, the judge ruled that he'd 'been punished enough.' No sentence, not even probation.

The judge is an idiot and this man didn't suffer anything nearly as bad as his daughter.

Cinthy · Senior Member

RichardInTN wrote:
Some people are too stupid to be allowed to breed.

It's times like this when I wish there was some sort of test before people could start having children.

Ditto!

Lonely Girl · Newbie

I almost did it once and an acquaintance did do it with a very tragic result.

My story. When DD was in school and DS in daycare we always had our normal routine where I took DS to daycare and then DD to school and went to work. One day DD asked to be taken first so I did. DS and I got to the car and as I was pulling away I just started driving to work. We are still a very quiet family in the morning so it was not unusual for DS to not say anything. I got to the MGM and poor kid thought we were going to Game Works and that is when I realized he was still in the car. It was winter time in Las Vegas and he would have been able to get himself out, but it still startled me that I forgot he was in the car.

Work acquaintance after a long weekend was taking her DD to daycare and got in the car thinking it was Monday (husbands day to drop off) and drove straight to work. Her husband had put the baby in the car (not that it matters). Unfortunately it was a hot summer Phoenix day and they lost their daughter.

I am not defending anyone, but I can see how it happened in that case. I am a very routined person so when I left DD's school that day I went on like I do every day straight to work. It is always a very sad thing to hear about, but unless it was plain stupidity or something I would like to think that it was an accident.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

I left my baby in the car once. It was a change of routine type thing. We usually went to day services at church but this time we went to night service. During the day I always dropped the baby off at the nursery and then took the 3yr old to day care and the older two to children's church. I always did it that way so I wasn't hauling her around the campus to get everyone where they needed to go.

But during night service at our church there was no nursery or day care. There was only children's church but they'd take any kids that were completely potty trained. So this particular night I pulled up outside children's church the older girls hopped out and I went directly to services.

During worship, I felt very weird. I kept trying to relax and concentrate and sing but I couldn't shake the feeling for anything. At the time I was attending Assemblies of God Church but I'd never gotten the Holy Ghost (still never have) but something was bugging me and would. not. quit! I thought the Holy Spirit was trying to enter me but I was blocking it.

I got down on my knees to pray about it and as soon as I closed my eyes I saw my daughter in her car seat. Scared the sh!t out of me. Maybe it was the Holy Spirit after all.

Fortunately it was night time so she wasn't in any danger of heat but still. HUGE parenting fail. I'm lucky she didn't get stolen or something!

kapper · I am always right, unless I am wrong.

I once chased a lady across the parking lot to tell her the baby was on her trunk. She had put the car seat on the trunk to buckle in the older child then got in the car and started driving away. I ran between the cars to stop her before she left the lot. Thankfully she didn't freak out and slam on the breaks when I came running up. The baby was fine but her mother couldn't stop crying and shaking. I have seen first hand how easy it is to forget something and I don't think most of the tragic incidents were intentional. There are some idiots who knowingly leave their kids in the car so they can do whatever but I can't judge them all until I know the facts. Humans are creatures of habit and when a routine is established we sometimes go on auto pilot. If you do the same thing every morning, then there is a slight change in your routine, I can see how a sleeping (or just quiet) baby could be forgotten.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

While tragic, I do understand that accidents DO happen.

My earlier "some people are too stupid to breed" wasn't for the people that have an accident... but for people that do stupid stuff ALL THE TIME.

(This is JUST an example) If you NEVER forget to grab your coffee that you set on your roof to unlock the door, but, oops, it happens once... that's an accident. If your car is permanently stained by coffee because you do it 2 times a week... every week... maybe having a baby isn't the best idea.

just a guy with a cat · Newbie

I know of one from a couple years ago, wherein a professional woman had an early meeting at work. She stopped to get donuts for the meeting, and, as her daycare was not yet open, drove to work to take them in. Unfortunately, some others distracted her and her "automatic" mode took over, forgetting her child. About three hours later, someone noticed the child, who was, by then, dead. The police investigated, and no charges were filed. However, she received many death threats, and had to change work locations. BTW...she had tried for about three years to conceive.....

Sometimes...these are accidents.......

Regarding "automatic" brain mode.....I do this all the time driving to/from work. Most of us do. I have to tell myself to go to "X Road" if I want to run an errand, as the "progarm" says "drive home via Y Road."

kapper · I am always right, unless I am wrong.

Exactly what I meant. I have to do the same thing when my routine is different. I swear I drive to and from work on autopilot just because I have driven the same roads for 20 years.

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