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Forty-two · Guru

Reduction

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

I also agree with LP. It might not be a problem now but it could very well be one in the future. I would get it done before any issues started. Have you started looking into getting it done or are you in the just thinking about it stage?

-- Edited by Mom of half a dozen on Monday 29th of October 2012 04:53:18 PM

Forty-two · Guru

dqm either wrote:

I can't imagine why he wouldn't want you to get it done though. The only thing I have to compare it with is when my husband wanted some teeth pulled. It wasn't life or death but if he had gone and had his teeth pulled without telling me I'd think that was odd.

Yes they're his teeth and I don't get a say but it's still important to tell me.

Well of course I would tell him, who has surgery and not tell the person they live with, because someone will have to take you to the surgery, pick you up, and care for you afterwards.

The reason my firends think I should concider DH's point of view is because he likes large boobs.

-- Edited by Forty-two on Monday 29th of October 2012 09:29:42 PM

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

No, I don't think I would.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

I would because it would require surgery. That makes it seem like a major decision and we always talk about those first. His opinions on the topic would carry less weight than mine though. Really though, with breast that big even after a reduction it isn't like you would be flat chested. He would still have large breasts to enjoy lol. I can't imagine most men would get to upset over it.

Lady Paint · Horse Junky. Dog Flunky.

I don't think I would. 32G is quite the bosom and I know that you are still a young woman and obviously a rather petite one. While you are not having back problems so far, that could certainly be in your future. I speak from experience.

Forty-two · Guru

Mom of half a dozen wrote:
I also agree with LP. It might not be a problem now but it could very well be one in the future. I would get it done before any issues started. Have you started looking into getting it done or are you in the just thinking about it stage?

-- Edited by Mom of half a dozen on Monday 29th of October 2012 04:53:18 PM

I am in the thinking about it stage. And I have checked with my insurance, which says they would only cover it for medical reasons.

Lady Paint · Horse Junky. Dog Flunky.

Forty-two wrote:
Mom of half a dozen wrote:
I also agree with LP. It might not be a problem now but it could very well be one in the future. I would get it done before any issues started. Have you started looking into getting it done or are you in the just thinking about it stage?

-- Edited by Mom of half a dozen on Monday 29th of October 2012 04:53:18 PM
I am in the thinking about it stage. And I have checked with my insurance, which says they would only cover it for medical reasons.

Under those circumstances, I might be tempted to develope a "back condition". wink

I knew a woman many years ago who had this done. I don't remember how big she was and she didn't get a major reduction, she went down to a C cup. She said it was very liberating to actually be able to go braless now and then and was also glad to get rid of those straps digging into her shoulders all day long. And being able to buy bras more easily. She also had a very good end result and they managed to get everthing all hooked up so even though her nipples had to be moved (or they would have been looking at the round all the time) she still had sensation in them.

Forty-two · Guru

Lady Paint wrote:
Forty-two wrote:
Mom of half a dozen wrote:
I also agree with LP. It might not be a problem now but it could very well be one in the future. I would get it done before any issues started. Have you started looking into getting it done or are you in the just thinking about it stage?

-- Edited by Mom of half a dozen on Monday 29th of October 2012 04:53:18 PM
I am in the thinking about it stage. And I have checked with my insurance, which says they would only cover it for medical reasons.
Under those circumstances, I might be tempted to develope a "back condition".
I knew a woman many years ago who had this done. I don't remember how big she was and she didn't get a major reduction, she went down to a C cup. She said it was very liberating to actually be able to go braless now and then and was also glad to get rid of those straps digging into her shoulders all day long. And being able to buy bras more easily. She also had a very good end result and they managed to get everthing all hooked up so even though her nipples had to be moved (or they would have been looking at the round all the time) she still had sensation in them.

I am thinking the same thing. I did have back surgery last year but it was for my lower back and I looked up the symptoms and upper back pain is usually associated with large breasts.

I had a friend have hers done and she said she did lose nipple sensation.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Hmmmm, surgery?

Yeah, I'd consider my husband's opinion on a surgery. If I wanted it or felt I needed it. It would always be my decision but if I was going under a knife I'd listen to his thoughts.

If he decided to get a surgery I would expect him to hear my thoughts. Most likely I'd be supportive.

Desdenova · Motherhood: Sleep is for the weak!!

I would talk it over with DH. To get his input and to check on the finances and repercussions of me getting surgery.

Actually I've already had this conversation with him, I want to get a boobie lift once we are done having kids, I'm a 36 DD right now and they are starting to migrate south :( so once they have fulfilled their feeding duty I'm giving them a lift so they look pretty :D
DH said that he was on board with it, he even said that once the last baby pops put he'll start saving.

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

I'd also suggest discussing it with him. This is NOT a dye job of your hair that you can change your mind about... or a hair cut that you can let grow out. This is a permanent physical change done with surgery.

Ultimately it's still your decision... but it's nice to have input from EVERYONE that counts. Does your DH count?

Forty-two · Guru

So let's say DH does not want me to have the surgery? Then what?

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

Forty-two wrote:
So let's say DH does not want me to have the surgery? Then what?

For me, it would depend on WHY he didn't want me to have the sugery. If it was because he was afraid of complications or finances, I would be very willing to consider his opinion. If it were only because he likes to play with big boobs, well, he's not the one who has to drag them around. It would give me pause that he would put his wants above my needs.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

What are his reasons for saying no? Likes the size and doesn't want a change? That is going to carry very little if any weight. Worried about anesthesia or something more serious? That I would pay more attention to. I would try to find a surgeon to talk with us, address DHs concerns. I would do my best to put him at ease. Then if the risk was minimal I would probably go ahead and have it done. It is something that could cause problems in the future, in fact it most likely will. I think I would be more than a little irritated if he ignored that fact, and I would tell him so.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

Aardvark wrote:
Forty-two wrote:
So let's say DH does not want me to have the surgery? Then what?
For me, it would depend on WHY he didn't want me to have the sugery. If it was because he was afraid of complications or finances, I would be very willing to consider his opinion. If it were only because he likes to play with big boobs, well, he's not the one who has to drag them around. It would give me pause that he would put his wants above my needs.

LOL I should have just waited and agreed with Aardvark.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

I can't imagine why he wouldn't want you to get it done though. The only thing I have to compare it with is when my husband wanted some teeth pulled. It wasn't life or death but if he had gone and had his teeth pulled without telling me I'd think that was odd.

Yes they're his teeth and I don't get a say but it's still important to tell me.

Mom of half a dozen · Guru

Forty-two wrote:
dqm either wrote:

I can't imagine why he wouldn't want you to get it done though. The only thing I have to compare it with is when my husband wanted some teeth pulled. It wasn't life or death but if he had gone and had his teeth pulled without telling me I'd think that was odd.

Yes they're his teeth and I don't get a say but it's still important to tell me.
Well of course I would tell him, who has surgery and not tell the person they live with, because someone will have to take you to the surgery, pick you up, and care for you afterwards.
The reason my firends think I should concider DH's point of view is because he like large boobs.

That wouldn't be enough of a reason for me not to do it. You will still have big boobs! Not as big, but certainly not tiny. I doubt most womens husbands would give them a hard time about this. I'm surprised your friends think your DH is going to be upset over this.

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

How old are these friends, 42? Are they typically more traditional in their relationships? That may be why they're so adamant about making sure your husband is happy.

OR rainy · It's Raining Men... :p

That if he wants large breasts then he can grow his own to play with...I knew someone who had it done in high school. I think your comfort and feelings are the ones that matter. It is nice to talk to him about it but ultimately you are the one who will live with complications as you age.

Forty-two · Guru

Aardvark wrote:
How old are these friends, 42? Are they typically more traditional in their relationships? That may be why they're so adamant about making sure your husband is happy.

One was 27 and one was 65. The young one is single and yes the older one has a pretty traditional mindset about men and women.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Forty-two wrote:
dqm either wrote:

Yes they're his teeth and I don't get a say but it's still important to tell me.
Well of course I would tell him, who has surgery and not tell the person they live with, because someone will have to take you to the surgery, pick you up, and care for you afterwards.
The reason my firends think I should concider DH's point of view is because he like large boobs.

oh, I thought you meant like it's none of his business since it's your decision you don't need or want his input.

If you are telling him and he's going to pick you up and take care of you post op then I say he IS being supportive and I don't understand the viewpoint of your friends.

What more do they want? A permission slip?

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Forty-two wrote:
So let's say DH does not want me to have the surgery? Then what?

My reasoning was pretty well already covered. It would depend on WHY. If (as was said) it was just because he likes big 'uns to play with... that's not a compelling reason to alter your decision.

If it was a reason of finances or worry over anesthetic, or he wants to check out the doc/facility (maybe he finds something out about the doc or facility that you haven't... different people think of different places to look for things) or something else tangible/important... those are reasons to step back and consider what he has to say.

Lady Paint · Horse Junky. Dog Flunky.

I would agree with why wouldn't he want you to do it? If it is just for HUGE boobs then I think he is being pretty selfish. I assume you are not planning on going down to an A cup or anything like that. Like others have said, you are the one that has to pack them around and you are the one that will suffer from any health issues they might cause.

huckleberry · Senior Member

I do think that couples have different areas where communication and input is crucial, and another couple might not consider it even necessary to mention a particular sort of decisions or news.

For example (on a really stupid level) there was a thread on the other board about letting a spouse or SO know if one decides to invite guests--not as a scheduling issue but many people thought it was important to ask in case the spouse didn't like the person or didn't want the person in the home for some reason.

I could not get my head around this, but evidently for some folks it's a must.

I think I would probably talk with Mr. Huck about having an elective surgery of any kind, but not because I would expect him to say yeah or nay.

Forty-two · Guru

huckleberry wrote:
I do think that couples have different areas where communication and input is crucial, and another couple might not consider it even necessary to mention a particular sort of decisions or news.

For example (on a really stupid level) there was a thread on the other board about letting a spouse or SO know if one decides to invite guests--not as a scheduling issue but many people thought it was important to ask in case the spouse didn't like the person or didn't want the person in the home for some reason.

I could not get my head around this, but evidently for some folks it's a must.

I think I would probably talk with Mr. Huck about having an elective surgery of any kind, but not because I would expect him to say yeah or nay.

I can't imagine not discussing it, it is the seeking approval that was really the issue. My girl friends thought that I should not get the procedure because DH liked big boobs.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Your friends are goofballs.

EmmDee · Guru

I think I pretty much agree with someone else. If he just doesn't want to lose his play toys and it can be afforded easily, he doesn't get to decide this for you. It is your body, you deal with them and your choice.

Evil Stepmother · Guru

Forty-two wrote:
huckleberry wrote:
I do think that couples have different areas where communication and input is crucial, and another couple might not consider it even necessary to mention a particular sort of decisions or news.

For example (on a really stupid level) there was a thread on the other board about letting a spouse or SO know if one decides to invite guests--not as a scheduling issue but many people thought it was important to ask in case the spouse didn't like the person or didn't want the person in the home for some reason.

I could not get my head around this, but evidently for some folks it's a must.

I think I would probably talk with Mr. Huck about having an elective surgery of any kind, but not because I would expect him to say yeah or nay.
I can't imagine not discussing it, it is the seeking approval that was really the issue. My girl friends thought that I should not get the procedure because DH liked big boobs.

They all like big boobs, but if you need smaller ones for whatever reason you need them, then you should be able to do it.

dqm either · Don't Quote Me

Forty-two wrote:
I am thinking of getting a breast reduction. I wear a 32G, I wear a size 6 pants and a 12 top. My boobs don't cause back pain and I run 3 miles on most days so my desire for a reduction is really aesthetic. However, when I talk to my girlfriends about it they immediately ask what does DH think. Since he likes my boobs they don't think that I should get them reduced. I love DH but I can't imagine really considering what he likes when it comes to my body. Would you consider your DH's thoughts in this matter?

If I was considering what my friends thought about it I'd consider what my husband thought about it.

But I wouldn't consider what my friends thought about at all.

Now the word consider looks funny.

Forty-two · Guru

I wouldn't consider what my friends thought about it either which is why I would not consider what DH thinks about it.