Unless you've been invited, you're not a guest, but an interloper. Sounds like they don't want you there. Seems like another body might just been too many. Sorry about that.
I was thinking of comments all the way through reading that... until I got to the end and you said everything worked out... now I think I'll just hit "mental delete"...
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Katty, I'm not staying in their house so it's not an issue of another body. I'm just using their electricity.
I'm not sure how they handle finances and splitting utilities but my daughter wanted to make sure they didn't have to pay for my electric use. If that was coming from them I'd raise an eyebrow but coming from her I just feel sad.
Like awwww she doesn't feel comfortable enough in their family :frown:
She'd never ever ever ask a guest of hers staying in our home to meter their electric usage. The thought wouldn't even cross her mind.
-- Edited by dqm either on Saturday 24th of November 2012 11:05:08 PM
My DHs mom and stepfather are bad with money. When I met DH, he was living with them and helping with bills. DHs younger brother was as well. I got pregnant and DH wanted me close. I moved in with him while we looked for a place. I was very uncomfortable. It never got better. We moved as soon as we found a nice apartment. In my case my inlaws are not good people, but I can't say I would have been comfortable even if they were. It wasn't my home, I was just staying there. I hid away as much as I could, and I never would have invited anyone over.
It isn't her home. Her DF parents might be wonderful people but I would imagine this is a very hard situation for her. Her DF travels for work, leaving her alone with a family that isn't hers. She is pregnant with her first child and doesn't even have a place to call her own. It's not even just the parents, they have kids there too. I know he doesn't want her alone but I doubt she will feel at ease until she has her own place. I'm sorry this is so hard for both of you dqm. It makes me sad too and it isn't even my family.
I labor like your daughter. I contract but don't get regular on my own. Thankfully I have a wonderful doctor. When we get to the end and I start contracting he admits me and hooks me up to the Pitocin. He doesn't like his patients to get too worn out during labor, he knows we need the energy for the delivery. I'm sorry she is so tired. I'm glad they finally decided to help. Best of luck today dqm family!
That just isn't the norm anymore dqm. I think you might be right, it sounds like something is "off". Isn't your daughter young (20ish)? Maybe they don't feel the need to go all out for young moms. After this is over I would encourage your daughter to say something. Women who labor for days are more likely to need the help of a vacuum or forceps. It is one thing if the woman in labor doesn't want the drugs, it is something else entirely when they would like the help. Would your daughter be ok with you saying something? I know she is an adult but people in pain or with an illness often need back up with medical professionals.
I'm sorry this isn't going as well as everyone had hoped. Praying things start moving along at a better pace.
I'm doing my best to go through everyone's albums and pick out the best pictures and so far I've picked three that kinda sum up the entire experience.
This one gets my heart.
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I know you can't see the baby in this photo but the look of love on her Uncle's face pretty much sums it all up. And the look of pride on her Daddy's face... Like here brother, look what I made.
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Here she is freshly bathed and content in her incubator. She was very calm and everyone kept saying what a good calm baby she was but I don't think she's going to be calm. If she's anything like her Mommy she's going to be a little spit fire. I think she was just exhausted from being born LOL. That was quite and ordeal. As soon as she recovers she's going to be raising hell. I'm sure of it.
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This is my other favorite. It's not the clearest picture but it captures the moment perfectly. She'd had her tests, her bath, been poked and prodded and tagged. She'd been through quite an ordeal and she was a lil trooper through all of it. She was really patient and her eyes kept moving around the room trying to figure out what was going on. But then she found these two fingers and that was enough for her. She put those fingers in her mouth and started sucking on them and she'd had enough of trying to figure out what was going on. The eye lids drooped and she was content to be passed around the family. It was heaven.
I decided not to stay down there the first week. My original plan was to leave today the fourth which is one day before her original due date and stay for a week. Leaving today would have been difficult enough as the the majority of my work I do during the first six days of the month. Being gone from the first to the third and then taking another week off is impossible. So I'm back home getting caught up also sending out my Holiday cards and letters which I wanted to have done by the first but I'm not bummed about it because now I can include a picture of Miss Hailey in the letters.
Thank you thank you thank you so much everyone for the congratulations and for the support during those days. I clearly wasn't handling it well and it really did help to be able to talk to the invisible people in my pocket for support. LOL
42, no. The baby was not ill. The problem was Mommy. She was in so much pain for so long that we were doing anything we could to make her comfortable. She'd say she was burning hot so we turned on the AC. Then she'd say she was freezing cold so we piled her with blankets.
Her blood pressure kept going up and up so they were trying to keep it dark and quite and cool in the room.
They were only using the incubator to keep the baby warm. They moved her to the rolling plexi glass basinet shortly.
They're home now and doing well. Unfortunately my younger girls haven't gotten to meet her yet because they had to come back home Sunday night in order to attend school Monday morning. :frown:
I know I'm mean. I would have allowed them to miss school but neither of them has shown me that they can afford it so... them's the breaks. Actions and consequenses and all that jazz.
We'll make a trip back down this weekend and take tons more pictures. I'd like to share some with Mommy and Baby together but all the one's I have so far are very intimate so I'm looking forward to getting some I can show my friends.
You are not mean, no way in hell would I take my kids out of school for a day just to see their neice, even if they were straight A students.
That said, I am glad your daughter and grand-daughter are doing well.
-- Edited by Forty-two on Wednesday 5th of December 2012 11:35:05 AM
Thank you thank you thank you so much everyone for the congratulations and for the support during those days. I clearly wasn't handling it well and it really did help to be able to talk to the invisible people in my pocket for support. LOL
42, no. The baby was not ill. The problem was Mommy. She was in so much pain for so long that we were doing anything we could to make her comfortable. She'd say she was burning hot so we turned on the AC. Then she'd say she was freezing cold so we piled her with blankets.
Her blood pressure kept going up and up so they were trying to keep it dark and quite and cool in the room.
They were only using the incubator to keep the baby warm. They moved her to the rolling plexi glass basinet shortly.
They're home now and doing well. Unfortunately my younger girls haven't gotten to meet her yet because they had to come back home Sunday night in order to attend school Monday morning. :frown:
I know I'm mean. I would have allowed them to miss school but neither of them has shown me that they can afford it so... them's the breaks. Actions and consequenses and all that jazz.
We'll make a trip back down this weekend and take tons more pictures. I'd like to share some with Mommy and Baby together but all the one's I have so far are very intimate so I'm looking forward to getting some I can show my friends.
Thanks Mom o' I like that one too but I'm going to take it down. I thinks it's one of the more personal moments. I like it because the baby has her eyes open. Most of the photos I've seen her eyes are shut.
My daughter is doing great. I wanted to go visit this weekend by my youngest got grounded which of course meant that I was grounded too. Funny how that works isn't it? She gets in trouble so -I- don't get to go out of town. :/
My husband and the other two girls went down to visit them and take pictures. Don't tell them I said this but they suck! Half the pictures were grainy or blurry and the videos were either of people's feet or three seconds long. LOL! This is why I am the picture taker in the family.
They were much better in their verbal descrptions than they were with physical evidence. They were very animated when they got home. My girls LOVE being Aunts. Mr. DQ says #1 is doing great. She's an awesome first time Mom. She's very relaxed and lets people hold the baby and even took her out today wih her Dad and sisters to go walking/ shopping.
The girls are enamored of her. They are impressed with how 'smart' and 'strong' she is. LOL! She must have picked up quite a few skills over the past six days LOL!
I asked them what she did that made her so smart and from what I gather, her most impressive trick is sticking her hands in her mouth. She's fairly good at it. It doesn't matter which hand either. It was reported that a few times she missed and poked herself in the eye but mostly she enjoys her hands and fingers and likes checking them out.
Her other trick that really impressed them is that she will try to look at whomever is speaking. She has a hard time opening her eyes wide enough and can't focus unless you are right in front of her but she turns her head towards sound and thus has been pronounced the smartest cutest baby ever by adoring Aunts.
I'm not sure where strong comes in for a person that weighs six pounds but I'll be sure to ask and report back on any amazing feats of strength.