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RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

Can men and women ever be "just friends"?

Aardvark · But my mom says I'm cool!

Or must there always be some sort of non-platonic emotion behind it? Why do you feel the way you do?

OpheliaDev1 · Guru

Yes. However, (assuming the people involved are straight) there is a "danger" to platonic male/female friendships that isn't there with same-sex friendships. So I think the friends need to be more aware of their behavior and have certain boundaries that they may not with same sex friends, out of respect for their SOs.

Desdenova · Motherhood: Sleep is for the weak!!

I think it can be done.

I work in a field where females are not very abundant, so I tend to be around men all day long, and it has been that way since the last year of high school. My DH is the jealous kind and, at the beginning of our relationship, he had a hard time seeing me around my male friends (add to that I have very few female friends) but with time he noticed that it was just a friendship, and that the love and respect I have for him, and our relationship, is more than enough to keep those as friendships.

Besides some of my male friends I would never date, I mean, I know their good and bad sides and know that they are not a good fit for me.

winds55 · Guru

I believe they can be friends. I have a lot of male friends, some married, some not. We share an interest in sports or politics, in most cases, and there's no concerns about it.

My niece had her male best friend as 'man of honor' at her wedding, the groom's best friend since childhood was 'best woman'.

FrootLoop · Naturally Frootilicious

My best friend is a man but there is a lot of sexual tension on his end, not mine lol. But I think we'd be close regardless.

I've always felt more comfortable being friends with men than women, a lot of women intimidate me so it is hard to relax much less be open.

~FrootLoop

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

winds55 wrote:
I believe they can be friends. I have a lot of male friends, some married, some not. We share an interest in sports or politics, in most cases, and there's no concerns about it.

My niece had her male best friend as 'man of honor' at her wedding, the groom's best friend since childhood was 'best woman'.

That could still work as a wedding party... because, in general, aren't the MOH and the BM (in this case "BW") supposed to hook up either before the wedding or at the reception?

winds55 · Guru

Only in Adam Sandler movies, Richard.

Desdenova · Motherhood: Sleep is for the weak!!

HI FROOOOOOT!!!!!!

* waves like the crazy woman Des is *

RichardInTN · I believe in I.D.I.C.

winds55 wrote:
Only in Adam Sandler movies, Richard.

Well... I wasn't going for Adam Sandler specifically... But you caught the "in the movies" reference

Forty-two · Guru

I have a ton of guy friends that no way do I have the slightest bit of attraction to them. Some are physically unattractive or some are just not the type of guy I would want a relationship with. I don't find anyone physically attractive if I would not want a relationship with them.

RareEyre · Veteran Member

I think it's definitely possible, despite chick flick evidence to the contrary, as pointed out upthread. It's probably insecurity on the side of SOs or other friends that gives the general impression otherwise. I mean, how often does workplace/church/neighborhood gossip surround two opposite sex friends, even when tbeir connection is entirely platonic?

Aurora · Senior Member

Yes, I think is very much possible.